There’s a conversation that I have had with women in my life about soul mates and lovers. It’s always interesting to listen to other’s ideas about these topics. The rationality, the reasoning, and how people think these can be the same person or different people in their lives.
Can you be drawn to another’s personality or soul without being physically attracted to them? I pose this question when these topics come up. And, I think…yes!!
I want to be a person who does not judge for this, I don’t believe that I am. I have been in the situation where I was an outsider looking in watching the dangerous version of this happen in someone else’s life (where lines get blurred between these relationships). This has actually happened to me more than once. I have watched this play out- there is so much pain, anger, yelling, tears, and hurt for all of the parties involved.
I believe there are people in each of our lives that we love in a friendly way and in another way. I also believe you can be drawn to someone’s soul in a romantic way but also without out any romance at all. For me it’s a feeling. I can walk into a room and a certain someone will be there and warmth will wash across my soul on an internal level; I am drawn to them without any explanation. It is something that JUST IS!
In life do we always believe the same thing that we believed when we were 16, 19, 22, 34…. have my views changed? Absolutely, yes!
I think that both men and women can be drawn to another’s soul…. same sex and other wise? Can I be drawn toward other men or women by their spirit, drive, by motivation, by inspiration; yes! Does that mean I want to be romantically involved with them—no! Do I believe that men are this way; yes! Will men admit this…hell, no!
Can we be soul mates with another person or be drawn to another’s soul just by the way they make us feel when we are in their presence.…other than our spouses or life partner? I say, yes.
I am head over heels deeply madly in love with my husband. He is everything I want to be as a human being and partner; to him as he is to me. He is kind, generous, loving and always trying to be better, give more, challenge himself for everyone else. So, we will say 98% of who he is, I strive to be for him and also for myself. Do I think he is perfect, do I think I am perfect, is our relationship perfect….no, but I strive to honor my spouse. This is an example of my lover and soul mate.
Back to soul mates…I believe that I have a few friends that are my soul mates other than my husband. People that do not judge me…. would show up for me…. would be my partner in crime and protect me in any way they could; these people are very rare and very unique. If you have a soul mate like this—treasure them. You should nurture them and care for them delicately.
These people I am drawn too, pulled toward by something stronger than gravity….no matter how much time passes or how much I am pulled in the opposite direction…. I am pulled back toward them like a dust bunny when the vacuum is turned on. Days, years, and months could pass but I will be connected to these people for life. I will always be attached to these people.
I am lucky because in my husband, I find both of these. Lover and Soul Mate.