My children are pretty wonderful! I know I am biased but when they go to their grandparents for a night or two and they jump out of the car upon their return and run to me arms wide open. I know I have done something right. My children are loved deeply and they themselves know how to love. They run to their dad in the same way. My kids come running full speed ahead and wrap their arms around me and squeeze like it could be our last embrace. Every single hug I get from them is this way.
As you have probably figured by my writing, I have twin boys who are twelve and my husband is the eldest of 3 brothers. The gene pool is heavily weighted on my husband’s side…its something crazy like 36 grandchildren and all but one is a girl!! Now, to me that’s a pretty loaded pool of testosterone.
When I got pregnant I remember thinking I wanted a girl but down to my core I knew I was having boys. At first, babies were babies to me-a lot of work and they must be taken care of or literally they wouldn’t survive. As months and years pass now, I have two pre-teen boys that are somewhat independent, love to succeed and want to succeed, desperately want their parents to be proud of them as we both are. And I find myself loosening the reigns a bit, I don’t want to do this because they will always be my babies but they aren’t babies any more.
Each of my son’s have strengths and weakness and their uniqueness to each other and others their age is something for them to be proud of. I have heard for years that my child is different in this way or that and I often cringe at these words where my fists unconsciously squeeze together. See, the word different has a negative notion to it and it defiantly does to my son. So, when someone calls him different I turn into momma bear and in my head their face hits my fist. Now, I am a rational person and do have my best moments when protecting my children’s right in school. But when they are violated I come running in like a bull in a china shop. I am proud of the advocate I am for my children. I would help anyone out their if they struggled in this area.
All of us are unique, special, gifted and some things come easier for others but what someone else struggles with you might succeed at. It is my job to show and teach my children to step in and help others with regard to this.
It is a constant battle for me to remind my sons that I want them to have a strong work ethic, a heart of gold, kindness, how to be gentlemen, and it is ok to fail as long as you get up and go after it even harder than the time before!! I want both of my sons to understand that the reward takes work, back breaking work and you will reap great reward from hard work. There is a time for each of us to win and each of us to fall short. I want them to know graciousness and courage as they move to their teenage years!